Tuesday, August 9, 2011
So much happened these days... And I realised what I fear the most, is that my closest friends start to ignore me... Because ignoring tells me that you don't care, and it hurts me like a thousand knives through my heart...
We ignore strangers because we don't care about them, and that's what makes the world so cold, because so many are strangers to us. But all hope isn't lost, there is still warmth in society. There is warmth in charity, because care is shown towards the less fortunate that one is not even related to. There is warmth in friendship and in love, because there is an extent of care shown towards each other. Even simple gestures, like an exchange of "good morning" in the lift with a neighbour you hardly talk to, feels nice, because you know both of you did not totally ignored each other's existence.
Even though there is a quote "do not do unto others what you do not wish others to do unto you", I don't think I am following it well... Though it is not totally ignoring, there is definitely a drop in the amount of damn given... There had been many friends I have been neglecting and neglected by, mostly those from secondary school, because we all have new friends we met in JC or in Poly, and it is just too busy to maintain strong bonds with so many people... It just feels so tiring for the heart, and I subconsciously focused more on those closer to me... People like best friends and that special someone get a much bigger portion of the care given... I believe it is the same for many people too... But it's human nature, that the more you put in, the more you expect the returns to be...
As the A Levels are closing in on us, those that know how to prioritise are caring more about their results, mugging their lives away while on more occasions than not, ignore the human desire to slack. I for one ain't one of those that really know how to prioritise, and it has always been, even through the previously claimed to be the major exams of our lives namely "PSLE" and "O Levels". Even though this should not be the mindset, I am always relieved that there is always a group like me, where we will all just slack together. But this time, most of them have joined "the other side". Even the one I hold dearest to is mature enough to prioritise. I suddenly feel lonely. I suddenly feel ignored. A voice shouting "Nobody is slacking with you anymore!" rings in my subconscious. I know they care for my results and want me to mug too. But the care I give and expect is about spending quality time together! It being different itself is already painful enough. I know it is only a few more months and everything will be back to normal. But will it? After A Levels it will soon be NS and Uni. Will it be similar to the jump from Secondary School to JC life? Will friends be forgotten and neglected? Will I be forgotten and neglected? It hurts just thinking about it.
I don't even know if I am still on the same topic about caring... I shall stop here...